Yesterday, I had the opportunity to speak with a friend I knew many moons ago (30 years to be exact), who at one time had a very successful life. Things had changed for her, and now she found herself struggling with everything you could possibly imagine. From relationship issues, to raising teenagers, to losing her job, to struggling with alcohol dependency, and to fighting the urge to run from all of it.
For 30 years, she was in a very lucrative career in fashion, however times change. With more and more retail stores closing, her career closed up on her as well. At her age of 50, she found herself starting over, which has affected all her relationships. She is feeling the panic; numbing the frustration and stress with alcohol. I cried for her, as to be honest, this all came as such a surprise to me; she was always the picture of success and I would never have thought she was struggling.
I suppose, never judge a book by its cover! We never know what is going on in someone’s life until they become completely vulnerable. I listened to her and that is all I did. That’s all she needed me to do.
An hour had passed, and at the time, I heard a huge sigh, followed by, “thank you”.
All she needed was someone to just listen to her. She needed to unload all the negative to free up space to take a breath and regain some positive. She was listening to herself speak, and at the end of our conversation, she said, “You know what? I believe I’m stronger than this; I feel silly for letting this get to me, but it did and I’ve learned. I will never forget you for taking time to let me vent.”
I suppose, the lesson here is this:
If you take the time to listen to someone when they need you the most, you are giving them the Gift of Regaining Confidence. Sometimes, that’s all it takes is to let them vent for a while, for them to gain some perspective. Sometimes it takes a bit more than that, but by listening to them at the beginning, gives them comfort which is the first step needed to gain confidence.
Taking steps forward with Good Vibes!