Anyone can be a Mother, Father, Stepmom, or Stepdad, but it takes a fearless warrior to be a great parent! Absolutely true!
Technically, my husband and I are both stepparents to our children. In trying to have some fun with being a stepparent, I used to refer to being a stepmom as, “Mom The Sequel!” 😊😊
The stereotype of being a stepparent has its ups and downs and to be honest, it is kind of blah to me; I like to look at it in a fun way!
As stepparents, we need to constantly be respectful of the children’s feelings who have experienced the divorce of their parents. Lets face it, these little humans have feelings too 💖 we need to be respectful, as this is also a way of teaching them to be respectful of their parents and others.
At first, everything is about adjustment; this can last for many years. Again, feelings don’t heal overnight, and we need to have compassion for our children who may be dealing with this confusion in their lives. Patience is a complete virtue!
Over time, things will and do get better. With compassion, the children will soon learn as they mature, the new parents in their lives, are not there to destroy the relationship between their own parents, but instead to add to the love of the child. We are there to show love, compassion, kindness, and generosity. More love to a child, makes for a happier child. They will also learn these values in life quicker and will then be able to find more positive in life than negative.
Whether you look at a stepfamily as “just a step family”, or whether you see it as an “extended” family, as long as there is love, then this will help you get through the challenging times.
Be a friend! Create a bond as a friend; the child will start to feel comfortable and will tend to open up more to you with difficult topics. We as parents need to keep lines of communication open with all our children; establishing that “friend” part of being a parent will make them feel free to talk to you about anything.
We took this approach with our children, and let me tell you, there isn’t anything we haven’t discussed with all our children. The lines of communication are completely open 💖
I’m sharing this with you, as I believe if we take 10% of what someone is telling us and tuck it away in our memory, you just never know when it may come in handy. We don’t have the answers to everything; we are learning as we go, but if something positive is the outcome, then feel free to keep sharing with others.
With Good Vibes Only – We are in it together as one big FAMILY 💖