There are times in life where, due to respect, we simply do not say what we “want” to say, but instead we say what we “need” to say. Have you ever been in that position? You really want to say what your mind wants to say, but realize it would hurt someone’s feelings, you then bottle it up.
That is called respecting someone’s feelings. We all have a difference of opinion, that is what makes us unique; however, at times, and in certain conversations or discussions, we don’t look at it that way. We just look at it as, “why don’t they see, my opinion is right!!” When this happens, it means you have strong convictions towards your beliefs. There is nothing wrong with that either.
The key is this:
It is very important to understand we are all different, we all need to be heard, and we all need to respect others opinions as well. If we want to be heard and understood, then why wouldn’t someone else want that in their lives? That is the main question here. Makes you think, doesn’t it?
In order to keep a conversation smooth and calm, when it could go the other way, we need to stop and think before we speak. It isn’t always necessary to voice an opinion, when all the other person wants is to be heard. Which means, you just need to listen.
At times, this can cause a bit of frustration in our lives; not being able to voice an opinion, especially if it is different than the person you are listening too. You do have an option; write your thoughts down on paper.
It works! I have done this many times, and I’ve felt a sense of relief afterwards. With respect towards the person I’ve been listening too, it was clear they needed to just be heard and for me to listen, I did not comment, I simply gave compassion.
I’ve used a journal to write down my thoughts towards a situation; this doesn’t mean I don’t like the person I was conversing with, it just means, I still wrote out my opinions on a “topic” in order for me to get my own thoughts out. In a way, the paper was listening to what the pen was writing, without commenting. A different perspective, but it works!
We all have thoughts that we need to get out, every now and then, and it is important to do so. No need to bottle up emotions, write them down! There are times we cannot say certain things out loud, but our paper will listen without judgement, without criticism, and without a hurtful response.
Start your own journal and give it a try; remember you don’t need to mention any names, just get your thoughts out about your opinions of different situations. In showing respect for others, you are showing respect for yourself by creating this exercise.
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