The Good Vibes Only Roadshow – Sing Like A Bird

I’d like to tell you a little story about how important it is to have a voice; not just for singing, but to be who you are meant to be!

When I was 19 years old, which by the way, seems like yesterday (I’m proud to say I’m still 19 just with 33 years experience at it), I could sing! Boy could I sing! I would be in my bedroom in front of the mirror, just like so many more before and after me, visualizing singing on stage to thousands of people. The music filled my heart so much it ached for more! All I wanted to do was sing, not just to entertain, but more so to feel my heart and passion come alive! Nothing compared to that feeling I had when I sang.

At this time, and with the help of some great friends, I secretly planned my parents 25th Wedding Anniversary. Aside from planning the food, beverages, cake, and decorations, I also planned the entertainment – ME! I was going to face my stage fright and perform all their favorite songs. I did not have a band, all I had were the cassette tapes of these songs; it was going to have to do, as I was ready to sing over any voice that was on those tapes.

I needed to sing like a bird!

The evening was a huge hit, it was a surprise, and everyone invited showed up! It was now time to perform! I started with a classic song by The Judds, for those of you who don’t know who they are, they are a mother/daughter duo who would now compare to the raspy voice of Pink but yet the gentleness of Adele. They are really the only artists I can compare them too. I’m sure after I post this, more will come to mind.

I will never forget, after hitting some higher notes, and keeping the attention of the guests, my Uncle looked at me, with a shocked looked on his face which later turned to the confused dog look, then looked over at his two sons (who were successful in their businesses) who had the same look on their faces. After I finished singing that song, all I heard was, “that’s it! We are taking you to LA and we are getting you a contract!” I didn’t think much of it, until the next day when they called me and said, “are you ready for a career in music?”

I froze! Instant fear came over me and I hung up the phone.

I couldn’t allow myself to believe I was good enough; instantly I had every insecurity possible show up in my mind. My heart was aching for the opportunity, but my mind took over and I went on with my life.

My life brought me to a point where I lost my voice; not just to be able to sing, but to be who I really wanted to be. I was lost! Fear took over and I was lost in a place where I couldn’t breathe, I couldn’t freely be me, a place where I didn’t exist. Anxiety set in and quickly I became the voice that sounded like a cat having a stroke. I lost my voice; I lost my passion.

Years went by, and knowing how my voice now could not carry a tune, I stayed quiet. I would mouth words to songs on the radio, but I would not open up to let my voice be heard. It was breaking me down more and more every single day. I never realized just how important it was to have a voice, and to be able to sing like a bird.

I became stifled in more ways than just singing. I needed to be heard, I needed to find a way to become a strong woman in this world and I needed to regain my passions in life. I just didn’t have the ability to be able to sing, but it was funny how my low self-esteem affected everything. My voice of all things was muted!

Many years later, life changed me, experiences changed me, wisdom changed me, this blog changed me, and my followers helped me to see my voice through my writing was an inspiration to others. My voice was being heard again!

I now have the fueled passion to sing like a bird again! I now have the need in my life to let it out! I now have nothing to hide! I am going to sing again! I am going to be heard and it doesn’t matter if I’m not on key, or if I sound like shattering glass, I will sing! Why? Because it is so important to have your voice heard, whether you sing, whether you want to talk, whether you have something to say, whether you are tired of being muted by the World, and whether you just want to say, “here I am, I exist in this World too!”

Sing Like A Bird My Friends, Sing Like A Bird!

The Good Vibes Only Roadshow – Sing Like A Bird!

Photo Credit: Felecia Buitenwerf

The Good Vibes Only Roadshow – Sharing Dreams

When you are passionate about a dream you have for your life, all you want to do is share your vision with enthusiasm with whomever will listen. You want to share what is making you feel happy! There is nothing wrong with this concept and you should share; unfortunately, some people may not be in the same mindset as you are when it comes to sharing something positive.

Don’t fear their reaction, don’t worry if you have insulted them by sharing your positive vibe, and please do not let it stop you from pursuing your dreams! I’m sure you have heard this before, “when you hear a No, this does not mean it won’t become a Yes one day!” This is the same concept with sharing passions to negative people. Just because they are negative now, does not mean it won’t become a positive eventually. Who knows, maybe by sharing your dreams, this is what is needed for them to change their own mindset and start looking for their own dream to be passionate about. You might just be an inspiration to someone else.

Never stop sharing, never stop being passionate about your hopes, your dreams, or your goals in life, and never stop talking to people about them. When you share, you inspire! When you share, you are showing hope! When you share, you are showing a drive for something great!

The short form is this:

Inspire those with hope, to find something great!

The Good Vibes Only Roadshow – Sharing Dreams!

Photo Credit: William Bay

The Good Vibes Only Roadshow – A Beautiful Mind Is Found In All Of Us!

A Beautiful Mind is found in all of us!

There are times in life, we may meet people who have nothing but negativity in their minds; please understand, this is temporary. A Beautiful Mind is created from life experiences; good and bad.

In my experience, it is easy to judge those based on their choices they made many years ago; how silly is this concept. Think about it! If someone made a bad decision when they were 19 years old (and I don’t mean something illegal, I mean something minor), but yet as they matured, lived a life, and at 50 years old they were still judged based on the bad decision they made 31 years ago, what a shame! These people could have become someone unique, wise, caring, compassionate, and loving; to not want anything to do with this person over something they did 31 years ago, you are the ones missing out.

You are the ones missing out on a Beautiful Mind!

Yes, there are individuals who never understand they have the potential to have a beautiful mind, but it is because they didn’t think they had any support, any love, or anyone to go to for help. They settled thinking they didn’t have any choices. We have so many options in our World, we need to encourage those who are hurting to reach out. Their beautiful mind is worth it.

What do all negatives need? They need a positive to balance it out. Never settle for any negative that is floating around in your mind; know there is always a positive to lean on and to gain wisdom from. Your beautiful mind deserves the attention, it deserves care, it deserves comfort, and it deserves forgiveness. A beautiful mind is created when we understand we are here to learn, to focus our intentions in a positive way, and to encourage others to do the same.

The Good Vibes Only Roadshow – A Beautiful Mind Is Found In All Of Us!

The Good Vibes Only Roadshow – Get Your Thoughts Out!

There are times in life where, due to respect, we simply do not say what we “want” to say, but instead we say what we “need” to say. Have you ever been in that position? You really want to say what your mind wants to say, but realize it would hurt someone’s feelings, you then bottle it up.

That is called respecting someone’s feelings. We all have a difference of opinion, that is what makes us unique; however, at times, and in certain conversations or discussions, we don’t look at it that way. We just look at it as, “why don’t they see, my opinion is right!!” When this happens, it means you have strong convictions towards your beliefs. There is nothing wrong with that either.

The key is this:

It is very important to understand we are all different, we all need to be heard, and we all need to respect others opinions as well. If we want to be heard and understood, then why wouldn’t someone else want that in their lives? That is the main question here. Makes you think, doesn’t it?

In order to keep a conversation smooth and calm, when it could go the other way, we need to stop and think before we speak. It isn’t always necessary to voice an opinion, when all the other person wants is to be heard. Which means, you just need to listen.

At times, this can cause a bit of frustration in our lives; not being able to voice an opinion, especially if it is different than the person you are listening too. You do have an option; write your thoughts down on paper.

It works! I have done this many times, and I’ve felt a sense of relief afterwards. With respect towards the person I’ve been listening too, it was clear they needed to just be heard and for me to listen, I did not comment, I simply gave compassion.

I’ve used a journal to write down my thoughts towards a situation; this doesn’t mean I don’t like the person I was conversing with, it just means, I still wrote out my opinions on a “topic” in order for me to get my own thoughts out. In a way, the paper was listening to what the pen was writing, without commenting. A different perspective, but it works!

We all have thoughts that we need to get out, every now and then, and it is important to do so. No need to bottle up emotions, write them down! There are times we cannot say certain things out loud, but our paper will listen without judgement, without criticism, and without a hurtful response.

Start your own journal and give it a try; remember you don’t need to mention any names, just get your thoughts out about your opinions of different situations. In showing respect for others, you are showing respect for yourself by creating this exercise.

The Good Vibes Only Roadshow – Get Your Thoughts Out!

The Good Vibes Only Roadshow – Going Back Home

For a very long time, I’ve wanted to be able to go back to my hometown to visit, but life always seemed to hand out more to deal with. Was this the Universe trying to tell me, I wasn’t meant to go back home? Then the Pandemic hit, and now it was going to be even longer before I could even think of heading back home. I found myself “in the meantime” and needing to make use out of this time.

Instead of feeling sad and lonely, I decided to get creative, I decided to visualize what it would be like going back home, I decided to embrace myself with the memories of a better time. My memories took me on a journey throughout my life; instead of feeling stuck in the past, I found myself healing my need to visit and healing the void. I was moving forward! At this time, I was still on a journey in my memories. Why was I experiencing a different perspective?

Was it because, I’ve grown “again” in a short period of time? Was it because, I was not taking my life I live now for granted? Was I showing more appreciation for the “now”, rather than the “past”? Were my memories creating more awareness for me? I was learning, I was letting go, and I was clearing out my mind, body and soul for new experiences. The past was fading into the distant; I blew it a kiss and waved good-bye. As I just had a beautiful visit; one I will cherish forever.

I have no regrets, I have great memories, I have lessons I’ve learned from, and I have friends that are dear to my heart. Sometimes, we don’t necessarily need to go back in the physical form, but instead we can go back in our minds and move forward.

I have learned that when devastation hit with this Pandemic, my first instinct was to run “home”. I couldn’t get back to my hometown fast enough! In reality, I hadn’t been home for 14 years, so why now all of a sudden was it so important for me to go home? I’ve come to the conclusion, home is comforting. I was needing the comfort as, along with everyone else, I was nervous and a bit scared as to what this Pandemic was going to be like. We had never experienced anything like it before.

Things started to become the new normal and we were able to understand the situation much better. Everything is a learning experience.

I now know, that if given the opportunity to one day visit my hometown, I can now do it with a sense of Peace and gratitude for the town that made me who I am today.

With Good Vibes Only – Going Back Home!

The Good Vibes Only Roadshow – This Mama Dances! What Music Are You Listening Too?

In our household, we always have music on during the day; to be honest, lately, it has helped to pass the time with being at home full-time. Music has been our distraction, our stress reliever, and our exercise. We DANCE!!

When I wake up every morning, I can’t wait to put the music on! Generally, I start with some soothing Reiki music to start my morning off, while I am catching up on messages and having my first coffee. Breaks me in too the day, in a calming way.

Then it happens! I put on a little Good Vibes or Reggae and let the beat get a hold of my soul! In fact, as I’m typing this post, I am listening to Reggae Classics on Spotify; what a great selection of music.

Every single day, the music will differ; as we can’t forget the good old 80’s hair bands and their rock music. Now, I put on AC/DC, Queen, Poison, Def Leppard, and Aerosmith when I’m writing Fiction!

During all of this, I will dance and enjoy! I let the music help me to escape into a World where I’ve never been; it could be a World I will write about, but it is a World of pure bliss. I take my bliss and I will dance into the kitchen to cook dinner, I will take my bliss and sway back and forth while making my bed, and I will take my bliss and let all my creativity out!

It is like painting on a canvas for me, without the paint or the canvas. I feel the strokes of the paint brush touching the canvas in the beat of the music. I know I sound like a Free Spirit Hippie; I guess my true self comes out through music.

My question to you is this:

What music are you listening too? What music brings you to this blissful place? What song “can’t” you get out of your head? What music makes you dance?

We need to share 😀😀 we may be helping someone find the harmony in music and dance!

With Good Vibes Only – This Mama Dances! What Music Are You Listening Too?

The Good Vibes Only Roadshow – You Look Perfect

Wow…what a different World we live in!  We were living a normal life, then in a blink of an eye, we were living in isolation.  During this time, boy did most of us change.  Some went from wearing make-up to going “oh natural”, from dying our hair to letting the roots come on in, from getting dressed up every morning to wearing pj’s all day long and from getting used to going to the gym to (YIPES!) becoming a couch potato!

Through it all, “you all looked perfect!”  The true you came shining through!  Our personal canvas, our outer shell, was there in its vulnerable state; it was embraced.  At that very moment, we all realized we were “all” in this together and we were all experiencing being raw.  Vanity didn’t matter so much anymore.

Isn’t it amazing, when we really understand that we are all the same; how we look at ourselves in a different light.

Now, we are adding masks to our wardrobe.  Some are buying all the latest trends in masks – who would have thought?  Guess what?  You Look Perfect!

Wearing masks are now allowing us to all look at each other through the eyes.  The eyes into the soul!  Where we should have been looking from the start!  It isn’t about vanity; it is about seeing the soul in someone’s eyes.  Let the eyes speak to you!  You will see who you are meant to see.

Just remember, “You Look Perfect!”

With Good Vibes only – You Are Perfect!

 

The Good Vibes Only Roadshow – A Deeper Meaning

This picture says it all!  You can hear the big breath, the sound of taking all the oxygen in, the feeling of the sun on her face, the sense of peace, and a sense of relief.  There is a deeper meaning!

Since we, as a family, have been staying home during this pandemic, I have made many lists.  I tend to do that when I have a lot on my mind and I tend to do that when life is changing.  The one list I made was, “what am I going to learn and how am I going to benefit in a positive way”, a list that truly changed my perspective.  I suppose, these are not your typical lists, they are more a cross between Affirmations and Dreams.

These lists became very deep in the meaning of a peaceful life.

How was I going to live my life in this New World?  I decided, I was going to live in a way where every single day, was about gratitude and happiness, and whatever happened in that day, was dealt with, with gratitude and happiness.

Since I’ve been consciously living each day this way, good things have been happening.  A sense of peace and calm have been coming over me, and in fact my husband and our daughter have experienced this as well.  Worry and anxiousness are fading away.

A new perspective for a New World has given us more drive and motivation in all areas of our lives.  The difference is, in the old way of living, with drive and motivation came a sense of hurry.  In the New World, instead there is a sense of peace with our drive and motivation.

The New World has given us the opportunity to live our lives as we were truly meant to be living.  Focusing on the true beauty of life, following passions and dreams, finding gratitude in the things we used to take for granted (ordering our groceries is just an example), and feeling the true meaning of being grateful from our hearts.  Life changing experience, just by staying at home and truly listening to your heart.  We had the time to do so.

I feel very fortunate to have had this form of awakening; I will never question my heart or my intuition ever again.  I am truly on the right path in my life and I am sincerely grateful.

With Good Vibes Only – A Deeper Meaning!

 

The Good Vibes Only Roadshow – Creating A Sanctuary

Since we have been cleaning and cleaning our home, for what seems like an endless amount of time, product, and muscle, it is now time to focus on creating a sanctuary.  Change it up a bit!  Move some furniture around!  Create a different look!

When the virus broke out, we packed up all our dust collectors, our pictures, items we were not using, and left a blank canvas for a home.  We cleaned and cleaned some more, to make sure we were following the proper steps for fighting the virus.  I know it seems a little obsessive, but when dealing with something we have never dealt with before, we didn’t want to risk anything.  Proactive at its finest!

The benefit of this project of packing and cleaning, made us see just what we could live without and what we actually needed.  It was a gift to look at our home empty, except for the necessities.  We created an environment that could breathe better!  The energy flow in our home was calmer and flowed more freely.

As time has gone by, and we are getting accustomed to how we are now living in the New World and living in a new realization, it is now time to start to create our sanctuary.

We needed to take this time in our lives, to not put pressure on ourselves in trying to understand our New World.  We needed to take this time to not panic, but instead to learn how to accept.  We needed to take this time to look at our lives and see where our creativity could take us and how we could make a life where we were more self sustaining, more resourceful, and more reliant on our abilities that we had at one time taken for granted.

It is funny what you learn about yourself, when you just take that moment to sit back, breathe, and tap into “you”.  My abilities of writing, cooking, growing vegetables, making homemade products, for example, have now become my full-time career.  I found a way to turn what I do on a daily basis, into a career.  A career in sharing!  Sharing what I have learned on this new journey!  The Good Vibes Only Roadshow has now become something larger, but yet something more valuable – it has become life changing.

Our sanctuary is going to reflect all what we have learned in the past couple of months, it is going to reflect our connection with each other and our goals for the future.  Our sanctuary is not about material items, it will be more about peace, calm, and reflection.

I hope you take this time to reflect, change or rearrange, and create a space that is all about who you are now; who you have become.  Embrace this change; life has handed us out an experience to learn by, in more ways than one.  Make the best of your environment you are living in; let some light in, let the air flow, and feel the balance.  Calm your mind; calm your space!

With Good Vibes Only – Creating a Sanctuary!

 

 

The Good Vibes Only Roadshow – Morning Person!

I’m a Morning Person!!!  There, I said it!!  Can’t help it!!  But, I love it!!

I love waking up knowing I get to make the best out of this day!  I get to smile at my family, I get to smile at my friends, and I get to smile with all of you!  Knowing I get to share my thoughts with all of you, makes me smile and brings me such happiness.  I am grateful to be able to share with you!

Our lives are not always easy, after all take a look at what we are currently dealing with!  But…I am grateful I am dealing with this pandemic with all of you, and that makes me smile even more; I wake up knowing we are all in this together and we are all going to make this World better together!  Big Smile!

I’m a Morning Person!!!  My life has not always been easy; some may think it has, but let me tell you, I have been through my own challenges.  I promised myself a long time ago, I would continue to wake up and smile and be that Morning Person!  I didn’t want the challenges in my life to win!  If I woke up crabby, then these challenges won, before the day even started!  Does that seem fair to you?  Why even get out of bed?

Becoming a Morning Person, has given “me” my own happiness.  Happiness I created for myself.  I will wake up energized and ready to create a joyful day!

I know, right now, it seems it is very difficult to smile, and I get it!  The way I look at it, is yes we are only human, and we will have our moments, we need to deal with so much loss right now, and how are we going to bounce back?  So many questions, with so little answers.  Strength!  Strength is the answer!  Strength in coming together!  Strength in knowing you are not alone!  Strength in knowing it is okay to smile and wake up ready to do something great in the times we are living in!

We need to smile!  We need to not only smile for ourselves, but for those who are hurting!  For those who are working the front lines!  For those who are dedicating their lives to saving ours!  For those who have lost loved ones!  For those who need comfort!  For those who feel lost!  They need your smiles right now!  By showing your smiles, they will not give up, but instead will feel refueled!  Your smile to them, say, “thank you”, says, “you are loved”, and says, “I’m here for you”.

Smile for EVERYONE!  We all need it right now!  Become that Morning Person!  Start your day wanting to give of yourself with a simple smile!  Being a Morning Person, will bring so much light to ones life, who desperately needs it right now!

Give the Gift of being a Morning Person!  Share kindness, share your gratitude, and share your strength!

With Good Vibes Only – Morning Person!