The Good Vibes Only Roadshow – Sing Like A Bird

I’d like to tell you a little story about how important it is to have a voice; not just for singing, but to be who you are meant to be!

When I was 19 years old, which by the way, seems like yesterday (I’m proud to say I’m still 19 just with 33 years experience at it), I could sing! Boy could I sing! I would be in my bedroom in front of the mirror, just like so many more before and after me, visualizing singing on stage to thousands of people. The music filled my heart so much it ached for more! All I wanted to do was sing, not just to entertain, but more so to feel my heart and passion come alive! Nothing compared to that feeling I had when I sang.

At this time, and with the help of some great friends, I secretly planned my parents 25th Wedding Anniversary. Aside from planning the food, beverages, cake, and decorations, I also planned the entertainment – ME! I was going to face my stage fright and perform all their favorite songs. I did not have a band, all I had were the cassette tapes of these songs; it was going to have to do, as I was ready to sing over any voice that was on those tapes.

I needed to sing like a bird!

The evening was a huge hit, it was a surprise, and everyone invited showed up! It was now time to perform! I started with a classic song by The Judds, for those of you who don’t know who they are, they are a mother/daughter duo who would now compare to the raspy voice of Pink but yet the gentleness of Adele. They are really the only artists I can compare them too. I’m sure after I post this, more will come to mind.

I will never forget, after hitting some higher notes, and keeping the attention of the guests, my Uncle looked at me, with a shocked looked on his face which later turned to the confused dog look, then looked over at his two sons (who were successful in their businesses) who had the same look on their faces. After I finished singing that song, all I heard was, “that’s it! We are taking you to LA and we are getting you a contract!” I didn’t think much of it, until the next day when they called me and said, “are you ready for a career in music?”

I froze! Instant fear came over me and I hung up the phone.

I couldn’t allow myself to believe I was good enough; instantly I had every insecurity possible show up in my mind. My heart was aching for the opportunity, but my mind took over and I went on with my life.

My life brought me to a point where I lost my voice; not just to be able to sing, but to be who I really wanted to be. I was lost! Fear took over and I was lost in a place where I couldn’t breathe, I couldn’t freely be me, a place where I didn’t exist. Anxiety set in and quickly I became the voice that sounded like a cat having a stroke. I lost my voice; I lost my passion.

Years went by, and knowing how my voice now could not carry a tune, I stayed quiet. I would mouth words to songs on the radio, but I would not open up to let my voice be heard. It was breaking me down more and more every single day. I never realized just how important it was to have a voice, and to be able to sing like a bird.

I became stifled in more ways than just singing. I needed to be heard, I needed to find a way to become a strong woman in this world and I needed to regain my passions in life. I just didn’t have the ability to be able to sing, but it was funny how my low self-esteem affected everything. My voice of all things was muted!

Many years later, life changed me, experiences changed me, wisdom changed me, this blog changed me, and my followers helped me to see my voice through my writing was an inspiration to others. My voice was being heard again!

I now have the fueled passion to sing like a bird again! I now have the need in my life to let it out! I now have nothing to hide! I am going to sing again! I am going to be heard and it doesn’t matter if I’m not on key, or if I sound like shattering glass, I will sing! Why? Because it is so important to have your voice heard, whether you sing, whether you want to talk, whether you have something to say, whether you are tired of being muted by the World, and whether you just want to say, “here I am, I exist in this World too!”

Sing Like A Bird My Friends, Sing Like A Bird!

The Good Vibes Only Roadshow – Sing Like A Bird!

Photo Credit: Felecia Buitenwerf

The Good Vibes Only Roadshow – A Beautiful Mind Is Found In All Of Us!

A Beautiful Mind is found in all of us!

There are times in life, we may meet people who have nothing but negativity in their minds; please understand, this is temporary. A Beautiful Mind is created from life experiences; good and bad.

In my experience, it is easy to judge those based on their choices they made many years ago; how silly is this concept. Think about it! If someone made a bad decision when they were 19 years old (and I don’t mean something illegal, I mean something minor), but yet as they matured, lived a life, and at 50 years old they were still judged based on the bad decision they made 31 years ago, what a shame! These people could have become someone unique, wise, caring, compassionate, and loving; to not want anything to do with this person over something they did 31 years ago, you are the ones missing out.

You are the ones missing out on a Beautiful Mind!

Yes, there are individuals who never understand they have the potential to have a beautiful mind, but it is because they didn’t think they had any support, any love, or anyone to go to for help. They settled thinking they didn’t have any choices. We have so many options in our World, we need to encourage those who are hurting to reach out. Their beautiful mind is worth it.

What do all negatives need? They need a positive to balance it out. Never settle for any negative that is floating around in your mind; know there is always a positive to lean on and to gain wisdom from. Your beautiful mind deserves the attention, it deserves care, it deserves comfort, and it deserves forgiveness. A beautiful mind is created when we understand we are here to learn, to focus our intentions in a positive way, and to encourage others to do the same.

The Good Vibes Only Roadshow – A Beautiful Mind Is Found In All Of Us!

The Good Vibes Only Roadshow – Going Back Home

For a very long time, I’ve wanted to be able to go back to my hometown to visit, but life always seemed to hand out more to deal with. Was this the Universe trying to tell me, I wasn’t meant to go back home? Then the Pandemic hit, and now it was going to be even longer before I could even think of heading back home. I found myself “in the meantime” and needing to make use out of this time.

Instead of feeling sad and lonely, I decided to get creative, I decided to visualize what it would be like going back home, I decided to embrace myself with the memories of a better time. My memories took me on a journey throughout my life; instead of feeling stuck in the past, I found myself healing my need to visit and healing the void. I was moving forward! At this time, I was still on a journey in my memories. Why was I experiencing a different perspective?

Was it because, I’ve grown “again” in a short period of time? Was it because, I was not taking my life I live now for granted? Was I showing more appreciation for the “now”, rather than the “past”? Were my memories creating more awareness for me? I was learning, I was letting go, and I was clearing out my mind, body and soul for new experiences. The past was fading into the distant; I blew it a kiss and waved good-bye. As I just had a beautiful visit; one I will cherish forever.

I have no regrets, I have great memories, I have lessons I’ve learned from, and I have friends that are dear to my heart. Sometimes, we don’t necessarily need to go back in the physical form, but instead we can go back in our minds and move forward.

I have learned that when devastation hit with this Pandemic, my first instinct was to run “home”. I couldn’t get back to my hometown fast enough! In reality, I hadn’t been home for 14 years, so why now all of a sudden was it so important for me to go home? I’ve come to the conclusion, home is comforting. I was needing the comfort as, along with everyone else, I was nervous and a bit scared as to what this Pandemic was going to be like. We had never experienced anything like it before.

Things started to become the new normal and we were able to understand the situation much better. Everything is a learning experience.

I now know, that if given the opportunity to one day visit my hometown, I can now do it with a sense of Peace and gratitude for the town that made me who I am today.

With Good Vibes Only – Going Back Home!

The Good Vibes Only Roadshow – Have You Lost Your Way?

Do you feel as though you have lost your way? It is almost a childlike feeling; when a child is feeling scared and lonely in this great big World we live in. Even though we have all felt at times, lost in our way, I’m not going to say, “I understand, exactly what you are going through and how you feel”, because each experience is different. Each experience should be treated differently.

Each experience should be recognized. Each experience should be acknowledged. Each experience should be comforted.

We tend to blame ourselves when we are in a position where we feel lost, but before you go down that road, just remind yourself, sometimes the World changes and takes over the control for just a bit of time. Sometimes, things happen in the World that put us in a tiny state of shock for a moment; it isn’t anything we have done, it is just circumstances that get out of control.

That’s when we “take our control” back! We slowly find our way again! We find options, we find a new way of thinking, we find comfort, we find answers, and we find a sense of peace within reach.

We cannot let something that is not in our control, control “our way”. No matter what, “our way” is, it will remain that way. “Our Way”, is what we own, it is also, “our why” in life. When you know “why” you are passionate about something in your life, then that becomes your way! You will never lose “your way”; it is always with you.

The next time you feel as though you have lost your way, just take a moment and breathe, sit in silence and remind yourself, your way is always there. Find your grounding, find your center, find your clarity, it is within you as well. In that moment of silence, listen to your breath, listen to your heart telling you, “I’m here”.

With Good Vibes Only – Have You Lost Your Way?

Picture credit: Paul Hutton

The Good Vibes Only Roadshow -A Few Special Friends

I’ve always done this, but more so now than ever, I’ve been thinking a lot about my friends 💞

Friends from my childhood, friends from my young adult days, friends that I’ve worked with in the past, and friends I have now.  I’m grateful there is somewhat of a crossover with my childhood to now, and from my past to now, and even from my career to now, but it doesn’t matter what part of my life my friends came from, I’ve been thinking of them.

I know I’m not alone in thinking about them or the memories they have brought to me; we are all probably finding ourselves walking down this lane.  I’m grateful for the adventure these memories have taken me on.  Plus I’m grateful for being able to still talk to these individuals.

I suppose you could say, “we are making new memories together!”

This last week, I found myself wanting badly to travel to go visit some of these friends, and of course knowing that I couldn’t was a bit difficult.  Before I became to sad or depressed, I decided to research ways of communicating instead of using Messenger or Texting.  Along with the rest of the World, I came across Zoom.  I’m excited to get started with it; part of me is nervous, but for the most part I’m excited.

I miss my friends quite a bit; there are some I haven’t spoken to in many years, but I also know that the minute we start talking it will be like we never stopped.  Those are my “special friends”, the ones where you have that chemistry, the bond, and the utmost respect for each other, that nothing can stand in the way of picking up where you left off.

The old saying (1970’s) used to be, “pick up the phone and reach out and touch somebody”, but now the way I look at it, it wouldn’t surprise me if the saying became, “reach out and Zoom somebody!”  As a kid, the first saying never made much sense to me either, because I couldn’t figure out how you could touch someone through the phone!  Keep in mind, I was only 8 or 9 at that point!! 😂😂 Times are changing!

My message for you today:

Reach out and communicate with those you are missing!  Pick up your phone, try Zoom, text, Messenger, or even FaceTime!  We have options!  Let your friends know you are thinking of them, talk about the good times, and do some walking down memory lane!  Stay connected!  Remind them they are loved, they are needed in your life, and remind them of how much happiness they brought to your life and continue to do so.  Appreciation for your Special Friends!

With Good Vibes Only – A Few Special Friends!

The Good Vibes Only Roadshow – We Are Making History! We Are All In This Together!

Facebook asks me every morning, “What’s on my mind?”
Then it hit me like a Mack Truck!
AT THE MOMENT, WE ARE ALL MAKING HISTORY!
The World has finally all come together as ONE and are working as a Team with nothing but care and compassion in their Hearts
The enemy in this case is invisible and we NEED each other to fight it off!  In my eyes, this is World War III and we are not fighting each other.
We truly are ONE!
The thought that we are doing this brought tears to my eyes.  The thought of what it took to bring us all together, made me cry even more, but the reality of it is that we were not fighting each other to get us to this point.
It is possible to live in Peace, to actually love each other enough (as we are doing now) to be kind to everyone, and it is possible to live a life where we do not cause pain to another human being or animal!
We are living the proof right now, that we can continue doing so!  Life is precious!
With Good Vibes Only – We Are Making History!  We Are All In This Together!

The Good Vibes Only Roadshow – Watching From The Shadows

Do you ever feel as though, you are watching life from the shadows?  It could be a relationship, friendship, or at work, but your intuition is telling you something about these individuals?  You can’t ask that question, so you just watch from the shadows and wait.

You know what is going on, you know others are aware what is happening, but not one person seems to want to bring it up to you, so you wait from the shadows.  You are waiting in a very dark place.  Your mind is taking over with thoughts that haven’t even happened yet!  Or probably won’t even happen!

Is this person cheating on you?  Has your best friend been talking behind your back?  Are you about to be fired?  All these “gut wrenching” situations, are lingering around in the shadows of your life!  In your mind!

We have all been there and we are not alone in those dark shadows!

Watching from the Shadows, is a waiting game.  Please know that this too, will eventually help you to gain more wisdom.  More tests, brings more gain!  Watching from the Shadows, can be very lonely, can be challenging, but can also be a safe place.  You are living in a form of “meantime” in those shadows.  Keep in mind, this place does not always have to be dark.

Change the color of the shadows!  Paint the shadow a bright color!  Your questions have not been answered yet, so why assume your questions will be answered in a negative way?  Your mind is powerful, allow this time in the shadows to create greatness!  Create and affirm a positive outcome!  This will be your test of strength!  This will be “your” time, when you thought you needed to wait and watch, all you need to do is create and live!

Your intuition is always right; we just need to learn how to listen to what exactly your intuition is trying to tell you in a positive way!

Think positive thoughts while you are watching from the shadows; your mind is powerful!

With Good Vibes Only – Watching From The Shadows 💖

 

The Good Vibes Only Roadshow – Recycle The Past

The Past is in the Past;  you can revisit the Past, but not with regret.

The Past which has been good, creates fantastic memories!  The Past which has bad memories creates more wisdom.  Take the memories and the wisdom to create a healthy future.  Recycle what you can take with you, in a healthy, happy and positive way.

Any negative from the Past, can go to the dump and stay there after you have recycled what can be useful to you for your future – Life Lessons!

By changing our outlook on our past, will also help us to heal any experiences which were not healthy and somewhat toxic.

Remember, cherished memories and wisdom will be a great and continued foundation for the growth in your life.

With Good Vibes Only – Recycle The Past 💖